Delivering a poor performance review is never easy but it shouldn't spell the end of a positive working relationship, says one industry leader
- Having absolute clarity about the result you want to achieve
- Knowing how you are going to conduct the conversation.
It is this mindset that ensures you maintain strong relationships and open communication.So how do you achieve this? Here are my top 5 tips.
Tip 1: Timing
A key element to handling a performance conversation is timing. Don’t leave the conversation too late, as any issues that need to be addressed may escalate and cause ill feeling and a drop in performance. Likewise, don’t jump into it too soon. Ensure you have all the facts before initiating a conversation.
Tip 2: Preparation
Give yourself enough time to prepare for your conversation. Lack of preparation usually leads to conversations which go off track, take longer than needed or become emotionally fuelled.
Typically, the 80 - 20 rule should be applied for any conversation. That is, 80 percent of time is spent on preparation and 20% on the conversation itself. When preparing for a conversation, you should have:
- A clear focus on the purpose of the conversation
- An understanding of the core problem and how you will articulate it to the other person
- An understanding of their likely response.
Finally, consider how you contributed to the issue. You don’t want the other person to feel they are being unfairly treated. Did you adequately train them? Did you set expectations well? Was the other person clear on how you were going to measure their performance?
Tip 3: Ask Questions
One of the key skills that managers must develop is to be able to ask questions. Questions help you to define and isolate an issue and find a resolution to it. A common mistake is for a manager to enter into a conversation assuming they know why something happened and have an answer to the problem already laid out in their mind.
The purpose of asking questions is to test assumptions and to validate perceptions before you commence the main part of your conversation. You should also ensure that you use open-style questions to get the other person talking and supplying information.
Tip 4: Listen, Look and Learn
As the other person is talking, listen carefully to what they are saying but also make note of what they are not saying. Look for cues in their body language, their tone of voice and any other inferences that may differ from the message they are delivering. The objective here is to determine “What is really going on?” Is it straight forward or is there something they are not saying?
Remember also that you need to be seen to be listening. If people perceive you to have your mind or attention elsewhere, then the connection between you will break and the relationship will be under threat. It’s a basic human need to be heard and listened to. It links to whether people think you respect them or not. To help demonstrate you are listening, when they have finished speaking, give them a summary of what they have just said to you and your understanding of it.
Tip 5: Share what you know, NOT what you think
Once you have asked questions, tested assumptions and concluded that the situation is what you thought - only now is it time to share your knowledge. To do this successfully, it is important to share facts, not what you think is the case as this may cause the relationship to break down. Facts are unemotional, whereas what you think has the potential to upset someone. E.g. if someone is repeatedly late, you should share the facts on the dates it took place and the evidence you have of it. You should not share your views on why you think they are late, such as that they don’t care about the job. Stick to the facts!
About the author
Anna-Lucia is an award winning educator, speaker and writer in the fields of management and education and is the author of The Four Mindsets – How to Influence, Motivate and Lead a High Performance Team. (Wiley 2015.) www.hcmglobal.biz
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