Have you fallen out of love with your job?

by HCA21 Aug 2012

When you break up from a relationship you don't normally keep living together - you move on. So why do so many stick doggedly to their jobs, even when they are far from 'in love' with it? Leslie Alderman provides 10 tips to find your 'soul job'.

At the beginning of every financial year I would get sad. Coming down from the highs of a successful year now responsible for brand new revenues while quietly contemplating a sales pipeline with prolific zeros was always unsettling. At least I was in love with my job and my internal motivation carried me through another year.

We talk about finding our “soul mate” when looking for love but what about a “soul job?” Before I found my soul job, I use to come home at the end of a long day and say to my family “I hate my job.” They never knew what to say. There were all the trappings of a great package, company car, glass office and scenic views. What more could a girl want? What happened to the days when I got in to the office so early I use to turn the lights on? So I did what any self-respecting executive did. I waited for a redundancy. Eventually it came and it was the best thing that ever happened.

If you were single, you’d head to E-Harmony or hire the services of a match maker. Loving your job is something that feels as good as being in love yet is just as elusive.

When you fall out of love with someone you move on. When you break up from a relationship you don’t normally keep living together. Something I did and what a big mistake that was! So why don’t we break up when we fall out of love with our job?

I knew a colleague who did a countdown of how many years before they could retire. Like a jail sentence, each day was one less day to endure! They are still there and still counting!

So if you’ve fallen out of love with your job. Here are 10 tips to help you find your soul job:

  1. Think back on your jobs/career when you were the happiest. Look for roles similar to these.
  2. While you have a job look for new opportunities and apply for a few roles. This will reduce the feeling of uncertainty and by you taking control this activity will empower you. This isn’t cheating it’s good planning.
  3. Think of your passions, interests and hobbies which could turn into a job.
  4. Make sure you have a killer resume. Don’t send out a two-pager. That’s like going out on a first date in a pair of jeans and thongs.
  5. Invest time to update your resume, develop a 30-second commercial and build your social media profile like LinkedIn which clearly demonstrates your skills and experience. It’s amazing how many executives disregard this great networking tool!
  6. Generate job alerts so you can receive jobs in your personal inbox everyday making the search easier. You can then pick and choose who you’d like to contact.
  7. Prepare for interviews. 80% of questions can be anticipated. 20% will take you by surprise so be prepared. Show you are excited, interested and hungry.
  8. Keep your cards close to your chest. Don’t walk around stating how unhappy you are. This only reduces your personal presence and credibility.
  9. Know your core values and look for roles that enable you to make them a reality. If you love helping people then look at doing a counselling course. Volunteering at Lifeline after completing their course is a great start. If you like being of service to others look at careers like the Police. You need to know who you are and what’s important to you.
  10. Like a match maker to help you find your soul mate, you can use a professional career coach who can guide you and support you through the journey to find your soul job!


About the author

Leslie Alderman is the owner of Leslie Alderman Consulting, which was established after 15 years in HR Consulting with extensive experience in Career Management, Salary Negotiations, Sales Training, Executive Coaching and Speaking engagements. Previously Leslie was a Partner heading up the National Career Management Division at Chandler Macleod Consulting.

For further information contact: M: 0419 262 540 or E: leslie.ian@bigpond.com



  • by Erica Collins 22/08/2012 3:36:39 PM

    Great article Leslie. Of course before leaving a relationship it is always worth trying to see if it is possible to fall in love again. That goes for work too. The grass is not always greener on the other side and often the "problems" that led to the job dissatisfaction in one job reappear again unless you learn to overcome them. If anyone is interested in how to re-engage with their job, I would be happy to email them some suggestions.