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How to balance being liked with being respected

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HC Online | 20 Nov 2015, 12:00 AM Agree 0
HR professionals can damage their credibility if they place too much importance on being liked, warns one industry VP.
  • Jo | 20 Nov 2015, 02:26 PM Agree 0
    Although I agree with many of the sentiments expressed above, I cannot support this distinction of 'like' versus 'respected'. It's not about placing boundaries around or specifying how one must act, it is about living up to your personal values and those of the organisation and being consistent. I worry when we enforce protocols when unneeded.
  • David | 20 Nov 2015, 04:51 PM Agree 0
    This actually puzzles me. I don't know of any genuine person who'd like someone they didn't respect. As Jo comments, if you consistently live up to your personal and organisational values, you will command respect from those who matter. People who don't "respect" you if you do something they don't like aren't worth the time of day (personally or professionally).

    Doing things "to be liked" is schoolyard behaviour that any working professional should be well past. And while Ms Middlemiss' is, of course, free to "never form close friendships at work or invite colleagues to socialise on the weekend", that doesn't reflect professional behaviour; simply her preference. I have many close friends who are also colleagues (as does everyone in my family). We've had professional disagreements (and, for that matter, personal), but have never had a problem staying liked and respected.
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